Question: My partner became very upset when I suggested having a Doula. What do I say to him or her? Answer: It is understandable that your partners initial reaction might be hurt when hearing you are interested in having a Doula. Partners may not realize the toll birthing a child takes on a woman. They may also not realize that some births can last for days and its nice to have a group of support people throughout that process so that if someone needs to nap or eat the other can step in. Have your partner read the information found in the links under my tab “The Benefits of a Doula”. That might help ease their concerns. Also, meeting with a Doula might help because then your partner can ask the Doula questions directly that might help make them more open to the idea.
Question: I don’t have the financial resources to be able to pay the amount that you are asking. Do you work on a sliding scale fee or do you offer a payment plan? Answer: I believe that every woman should have the opportunity to have a Doula present during their pregnancy and birth! I am more than willing to discuss payment options and prices with you!
Question: I have a birth plan and I am very determined to follow that plan without wavering. But, what if something happens and I am not able to follow my birth plan exactly. Will you still help me through the labor process? Does it make me a bad mother for not following through with my plan? Answer: Of course I will stand by your side! Regardless of what happens during your birth, my objective is to help guide and support you regardless of whether you stick to your birth plan or deviate from it. Birth plans are very nice to have but sometimes there is a need to change things as you get deeper into labor and that is OK! Although I know your birth plan is important, one thing moms need to remember is a healthy mom and healthy baby are what we are looking for in the end. So however we need to change things in order to ensure that happens is ok and it in no way shape or form makes you a bad mother.
Question: Does a Doula take the place or a Nurse? Answer: Absolutely not. Nurses and Doulas have two different roles and each of their roles go hand in hand. A Nurse and a Doula, when they work together, can create an amazing and beautiful birthing experience for mom and partner. Doulas do not perform clinical or medical tasks such as taking blood pressure or temperature, monitoring fetal heart rate, doing vaginal examinations or providing postpartum clinical care. They are there to comfort and support the mother and to enhance communication between the mother and medical professionals.
Question: Does a Doula make decisions on my behalf? Answer: A Doula does not make decisions for clients or intervene in their clinical care. She provides informational and emotional support, while respecting a woman’s decisions.
Question: Will a Doula make my partner feel unnecessary? Answer: No, a doula is supportive to both the mother and her partner, and plays a crucial role in helping a partner become involved in the birth to the extent he/she feels comfortable.
Question: What effects does a Doula have on the mother? Answer: When a doula is present during and after childbirth, women report greater satisfaction with their birth experience, make more positive assessments of their babies, have fewer cesareans and requests for medical intervention, and less postpartum depression.